Here’s Why #AllLivesMatter Is Useless

Okay, can I try to explain this in terms that everyone will understand? I’m tired of people posting crap on social media as if there they are under attack because we’re trying to bring voice to a marginalized group. So put your ego aside, and think about it:

Yes, all lives matter. Of course they do. It doesn’t even really need to be said. But Black Lives Matter? That needs to be said. Because there’s a deficit in our society when it comes to the lives of our fellow black friends and family members. All Lives Matter works when, as a society, we ACTUALLY value all lives.This is not the case today and the proof is right in front of our faces.

If you have a garden with five flowers and one of them is wilting, do you just keep watering and caring for them all exactly the same way because “All Flowers Matter”? NO! You focus in on the one that is dying. You focus on the problem you’ve created and go back to tending for them equally once the wilted flower has come back to life.

So even though All Lives Matter, saying that doesn’t change a damn thing because it washes right over the group we (as a society) still value less than everyone else.

The police shooting is horrific and tragic. It deserves attention because it is NOT the way to handle this issue. It was heartless and damaging to everyone. Clearly there are a few people who don’t believe the lives of police officers matter either, and that is unacceptable. I’m grateful that there doesn’t appear to be evidence that this attitude is prevalent country-wide.

The fact remains: black lives are needlessly lost every day at even greater rates. So let’s keep chanting #BlackLivesMatter until we get to a place in our society where #AllLivesActuallyDOMatter

2 thoughts on “Here’s Why #AllLivesMatter Is Useless

  1. Do you remember Amelia Power? We shared a lunch table in junior high with her I think.She is now a Public Defender in Denver and wears her life out trying to help individuals caught in the “justice” system. She recommended a couple books to me, which if you haven’t read, then I will pass on to you to relieve a sliver of the guilt I feel for not having purchased, read, and promoted them myself. and*Version*=1&*entries*=0 You should friend her on Facebook. You could have some great conversations.

    I would like to take your flower analogy a little farther and say I have five areas in my yard with flowers. One area thrives, three areas do pretty well, and one area never seems to take off. If my flower garden is my source of pride and adds to my sense of accomplishment, which area will I focus on? I will probably fill my lungs with the fragrant success of my thriving area and kind of just bask in their beauty before dragging myself over to the mediocre areas to do my due diligence, and then when I’m nearly out of energy and the sun is at its hottest, and I hear the air-conditioned house and a cold drink dispenser calling, I’ll sweep past the failing area, condemn it with some harsh epithets about how I never should have bothered planting in such a shaded, rock-hard area, and give it whats left of my gardening enthusiasm for the day.

    However, if my gardening is a labor of love, if I enjoy seeing how I made a difference, and if the source of my joy is learning about what each variety of flower needs and how to help it thrive, I will wear out my body and work through the blazing heat and into the dark of night to provide those flowers with what they need. I would just consider the flowers that automatically thrived to be very fortunate to have been planted where they had what they needed. I’ll enjoy all of my flowers, of course, but the ones I worked hardest to give a fair chance to, those are the ones I would feel the absolute worst about if a dog dug them up, a lawn mower blade took some out or a well-meaning child popped all the heads off of them for an inch-long bouquet. If people aren’t caring about the black lives being lost, it’s because they haven’t invested in many black lives.

    Of course humans aren’t flowers, so it is much easier to just blame their problems on them and go back to our . Or to soak up all the sunshine, absorb all the moisture in the soil and then act surprised when there is nothing left for the neighboring flowers. Even plants demonstrate incredibly competition, such as on jungle floors where sunlight is scarce and foliage is dense; as well as amazing partnerships in which planting certain varieties together create mutually beneficial outcomes. We could learn a lot from them.

    Right now the best I seem to be able to do is just have conversations or connect with people while I’m out in the community. Thanks for providing another key to understanding the current conversation.

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    • And this is why I don’t have a garden – lol! Very thoughtful extension of the analogy – thank you! This is a very good representation of how people are approaching this issue today. I’ve heard of these books, I will take a look! And yes, I remember Amelia – not surprised that’s where she ended up! I’ll have to look her up.

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