I Can’t NOT Blog About Tyler Glenn’s New Video, “Trash”

Because I’ve revealed on here before that I was raised Mormon, went in a mission, got married to a Mormon with plans to raise lots of little Mormon babies. 

Now I’m strictly areligious with only two little apostate babies and an apostate husband to boot (thank god). 

And I love Tyler Glenn’s new video. 

And the song too, of course. The beat is amazing, the lyrics paint an adequate picture of the emotions he’s experiencing, and his style is, as always, flawless (and I fucking LOVE the new look!).

And it’s fucking offensive as shit (in a very good way as you will find if you keep reading). I haven’t been to church in 6 years and it’s hard not to cringe during certain parts. Old habits and feelings die hard and I admit, my first reaction was “this is a bit over the top”. 

But that’s bullshit. It’s not over the top, it’s exactly right at the top. It’s art. Since when did great art NOT offend hundreds of thousands of people? And it’s beautiful and emotional and reflects very clearly how difficult and soul-wrenching it is to feel betrayed by a belief system that once informed your entire identity. My knee-jerk reaction is a simple result of years of being told that it’s wrong to be angry after leaving the church, and why don’t I “leave it alone” and “quit being offended”. There are a lot of de-personalizing messages that are difficult to shake, even years later. I’m not angry anymore – I was as angry as Tyler a one point – but it still takes time to shed 29 years of hardcore training. It takes time to discover who you are without the church; who you really are. How to live without that constant safety net. How to discover that you really had the power and the strength to overcome challenges, be a moral person, and make sense of life without a strict and codependent narrative.

I’ve been watching Tyler Glenn for years, since before he came out as gay. Not in a weird stalker-ish way, but after he finally came out of the closet, I figured leaving the church wouldn’t be far behind. But he stuck with it; held on. Like the rest of us always did when we hit a bump in the road. I went to an amazing concert just after he came out and was just blown away by how much joy he was finding in embracing his true self. It was inspiring to watch him up there being exactly who he is, unafraid to express himself fully. I wouldn’t necessarily say I hoped that he would lose his faith – that’s not an easy road to wish upon anyone – but I knew how manipulative the “doctrine” and narrative around “same-sex attraction” was (this is what they call homosexuality in the church – it’s considered a weakness that can be overcome) in the Mormon church and I feared the cognitive dissonance he might be experiencing could be substantial. 

Now I watch him in this video and I feel like I’m back at that concert again, seeing him bloom once again, but spreading his wings even further. The music is better, the dark aura of it is more emotional and intriguing, and his passion is clearer. I look forward to the full album with a fervor I can’t describe. I love to see people raw, open, and splayed out without fear (perhaps because I personally find this so difficult to do); his projection of this almost feels sacred. 

Like Tyler, I’m a writer and artist (just a whole lot less famous lol). Many of you may not know, but I’m actually a songwriter first and a story writer second. Songwriting is all about diving into deep emotions and finding unique ways to interpret and express them so that they have meaning that only you might understand but that others can leach into if they’ve had similar experiences. It’s all about freeing yourself; emoting the parts of humanity that are sometimes disturbing. It’s a very personal, very scary experience to put that out into the world. Tyler is taking a huge risk here and I can only hope he sees how much it’s paying off for those of us who understand. We’ve been there, man. I’ve never been there as a gay member, but to a certain extent, we understand. 

And no matter how offended members of the church might be (and I’m quite sure they will be), I think it’s important to note how sacred this particular form of expression is to him. He’s not being disrespectful; he’s showing how something that he once revered filleted him into pieces. If nothing else, this video is an important representation of exactly how painful and soul-crushing it is to try to survive as a gay member of the Mormon church. 

If you haven’t seen it, here’s the video:



8 thoughts on “I Can’t NOT Blog About Tyler Glenn’s New Video, “Trash”

  1. Leaving a faith, especially one where the door has been slammed in your face—as was the case with Tyler—is always intensely personal and tough. Anger is a very real part of the process, and I respect that he captured that as an artist. Also, I don’t think he was ruder to the church than they were to all their LGBT members and members with LGBT families. Too many people have been taking their lives. 😦

    I’m curious to see where Tyler will go from here. I’m new to Neon Trees and Tyler Glenn, but he’ll be someone I’ll be watching. I loved listening to his episodes of Mormon Stories.

    (Nevermo, but I left Scientology, so I’ve been through an analogous process.)

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  2. As I am at work (a religious establishment) I will have to quietly applaud the sentiment and courage it takes to stand up for what you feel and share it. I too avoid awkward commentary that might offend because I truly do not wish to insult people for their beliefs. But sometimes it is hard, because that means hiding who I am to get along. It is a one-sided arrangement. I am not offended for religious views (barring the ones that would chain a woman to an obedience-driven wife/mother path without exception or freedom of choice) but my beliefs, by their nature, offend so many. I even hesitate hitting send because then this view is there for others to judge and condemn. But at some point, it gets so very tiring hiding in plain sight.

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    • I can relate to this on so many levels. Even blogging about this subject is difficult for me because I know any one of my family members could find it and I don’t want my opinions to hurt them. But in the same vain, their opinions hurt me so it’s a catch 22 I guess. I believe it’s possible to have authentic and full relationships with people who have directly opposing opinions on morality, but they are so difficult to find. I’m not sure I’ve found one yet, but I hope to.

      Thanks for commenting, I certainly feel your pain and frustration, particularly when your job is in the mix. Luckily my blog is not very popular so it’s unlikely anyone you know would ever find this. 🙂

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